“For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the ones he loves,” Ephesians 1:4-6 (NIV)
We have been chosen!!!! It amazes me that before we were born, before our parents met, before we ‘got saved’, before we were given a title at church, before the creation of the world God CHOSE us. This is a POWERFUL revelation!!! We have been predestined to be adopted as sons and daughters of Christ not because of anything we’ve done, just because we are loved. We didn’t have to do anything to earn God’s love.
Since we have been chosen and adopted as God’s precious children it means we can’t behave anyway. I look at family and friends who do not know God and they are free to do whatever they want but I can’t and I have to be honest it irritates me sometimes. As children of God we have been chosen and set apart “before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless,” (Ephesians 1:4). The definition of Holy is to be dedicated, consecrated, to be sanctified and sacred. This explains why we’re instructed to “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body,” 1 Corinthians 6:18.
Sex before marriage is like breaking into a candy shop. There is nothing wrong with the candy shop and its selection of sweets and chocolate. What matters is how we choose to enter the candy shop. When we enter the covenant of marriage God gives a man and woman the key to the candy shop to enjoy.
In my early 20’s when I was lost and happy and content doing “my thing” (See the Blog I wrote Lost and Found). I used to think ‘Why does God want to spoil my fun?’. I’d hang out with my little boyfriends and I can assure you we weren’t studying the Bible. I was tied up in sin BUT GOD loosed me and set me free. I was in sin but couldn’t STAY in it because I have a predestined purpose to fulfil and so do you!!! I had to say bye to the little boyfriends who were pulling me away from Christ. I had to give up a man who I could see for a man who I couldn’t, his name is JESUS. I had to pick up my cross and start walking, not quiet sure where I was going but I knew it was better than where I was.
So now that God has delivered me from my own foolishness, washed me with his word, cleansed me with the Holy Spirit, healed, strengthened and equipped me to fulfil my purpose. I pursue Christ and a life of holiness not out of religious duty but out of a heart that loves God and wants his will to be done in my life. I flee from sexual temptation because God loves me unconditionally and when we received that unconditional love and forgiveness it makes us want to do the right thing.
In John 8 a woman was caught in the act of adultery and they made her stand before a group of church people who wanted to stone her. They humiliated her in front of the crowd but Jesus put them in their place and said: “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her,” John 8:7. They walked away one by one because they also sinned by judging her and having inequity in their hearts (See the Blog I wrote #Heart Check).
Jesus refused to condemn her and told her to “go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8:11). She was blatantly guilty but was still forgiven and given a second chance like so many of us!!! When I look back and know what COULD’VE happened to me and the things that SHOULD’VE happen but the GRACE of God covered me. I never want to take the Grace of God for granted.
We can deceive ourselves into thinking that we can “handle temptation”. My friend told me the testimony of her sister and gave permission for me to share. Her sister was a youth leader in church and taught scriptures on sexual purity. She was single for nine years and after 1 month of dating a guy at her church she found out she was pregnant and hid it from her family for 6 months. She thought she could handle the temptation but in a moment of weakness she fell. “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall,” 1 Corinthians 10: 12. It’s only the Grace of God and the help of the Holy Spirit that keeps us from falling and not ourselves.
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak,” Matthew 26: 41
We’ve been chosen to be Holy, we didn’t choose ourselves and it comes with a set of expectations. It is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.” I Peter 1:16. As children of God we are called to live a life of holiness and to carry ourselves as Kings and Queens. While single during the friendship/courtship/engagement process we should have a relationship that glorifies and honours God. We need to intentionally protect ourselves and our brothers/sisters in Christ by having an open and honest discussion about what would cause us to fall and put realistic boundaries in place. I’ve done things both ways and doing relationships God’s way is the best way!!
We’ve been chosen for a purpose, chosen to be blessed, chosen to be favoured and chosen to fruitful. Let’s expect it!! God has unique plans for our life and wants to use us in a special way.
God is faithful!!!