“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, so that in due time he may exalt you. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you,” 1 Peter 5:7
Frustration is something we all go through. It’s one of those awkward things that no one talks about it, so the tendency is to remain silent and keep going. We are smart enough to find ways to hide the silent frustrations by putting a mask on to hide it by looking good on the outside, buying new clothes, getting a new hair style or simply by smiling so hopefully people won’t notice that we are frustrated.
But every now and again the mask falls and the frustration manifests itself in the form of depression, anger, pride, jealousy, fear, anxiety or discouragement. It’s possible to be in church week after week for months or live in the same house with your family and no one knows that you’re silently frustrated and disappointed with where life has you right now. You thought you’d be further along in life by now and you’ve prayed but nothing has changed yet.
My frustrations may not be yours but there are times when we are all frustrated about something! Frustration comes from wanting something or trying to get something and not being able to obtain it. The silent frustration is made even worse because EVERYONE knows the source of your frustration. You don’t have the privilege of waiting privately, its put on blast for all to see which makes the frustration even worse and it can be embarrassing.
What do you do when you’ve done all that you can to change the situation. You’ve prayed, you’ve fasted, you’ve confessed the word of God, you’ve been patient, you’ve waited for several years, you’ve tried to make things happen, you’ve done it all. But NOTHING has changed, so the frustration goes to another level.
Then you have family and friends asking questions……….You’re a beautiful girl/handsome man, why are you not married yet? When I was your age I was married!! Or the married couple gets, so it’s been several years now. Why don’t you have children yet? Or, the married couples with children are asked, so you’ve been married for several years and you’re STILL living at home with your parents. Why haven’t you moved out yet? Or, you have everything you thought you needed but you’re still unhappy and frustrated. Obviously, if you could change the situation than you would.
Instead of praying with you and encouraging you those people are sowing seeds of discontentment that is designed to cause you to doubt God and his perfect timing for your life. IGNORE THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don’t fall for it.
I’ve learnt to be content with where God has me now on the way to where he is leading me. There is power in contentment. The journey and what I learn along the way is as important as the final destination. There is something that God wants us to learn while we are going through our situations. Our character is being refined and developed to prepare us for what God has already prepared. Some aspects of our character like selfishness, rudeness or a bad attitude needs to be pruned and the process can be frustrating.
Silent frustration can make you want to withdraw from it all and hide from God, church and people because you’re disappointed and angry that God hasn’t answered your prayer sooner which is causing frustration, embarrassment and shame. But then you soon realise that hiding will not change anything. The reality is that only God can help us and he wants to help because we are his children and he loves us but sometimes pride gets in the way. (See the blog I wrote Lord, help me!!).
The first step to dealing with silent frustration is to remove the mask and admit to God the areas in your life that cause frustration. Life can be hard and we are not equipped to handle the burdens, anxiety, stress and frustrations of life on our own. We need to come to a place of humility, surrender, ask God for help and cast our cares. “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, so that in due time he may exalt you. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you,” 1 Peter 5:7.
I know what it’s like to be silently frustrated and to pray and there are no changes. I have several frustrations!! One of them is my Dad, I’ve shared that he has been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer’s. We’ve prayed, he has been anointed, men and women of God have prayed for him but things have got worse. This is frustrating!! Its heart-breaking to talk to my Dad and he looks at me not knowing who I am. What do you do when you see a person you love suffering and you can’t do anything to change it? Last year, he could talk but now he is not able to talk at all. He struggles to walk and needs 24-hour supervision as well as carers to shower and dress him.
I was with my 10-year-old nephew a few months ago and we were in the car and I said to him: “Grandad is not well. How do you feel about this?” The first thing my nephew said is: “I know that he is not well but he can get better!!!!!!” From the mouth of a child were words of FAITH and not words of doubt and fear. We are told in Matthew 18:3 to have childlike faith that believes God no matter what it looks like. I wasn’t walking by faith I was going by what I saw which doesn’t look good or promising.
It all comes down to having faith in God and knowing that he is sovereign and more than ABLE to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, that power is FAITH (Ephesians 3:20). It took a 10-year old child to remind me to have faith in God and to speak words of faith.
FAITH is a fight and fighting gets tiring sometimes which causes frustration and makes us want to give up. We all have something that we are believing God for and the only way to receive it is by having faith in God. FAITH is not a physical fight, it’s a spiritual fight and we need to use spiritual weapons.
I encourage you to continue to fight on your knees in prayer, fight by confessing the promises in the Word of God, fight through the sacrifice of Praise and Worship and fight by simply REFUSING to give up on what ultimately only God can do (See the blog I wrote Faith is a Fight). TRUST GOD with your frustrations and cast your cares on him because he cares for you.
“Trust In the Lord and do good……” Psalm 37:3
This is one of my favourite scriptures. While we are going through difficult times lets “trust God and do good” by choosing to help, encourage, support and be a blessing to other people. Now that’s POWERFUL!!! God will get the glory in the good and bad times. Life is far from perfect but I choose to trust God, be a blessing to other people and continue to have fun and enjoy my life.
I really am fighting with you!!!!
God is faithful!!