“Let everything you say be good and helpful so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them,” Ephesians 4:29 (NLT).
Life is a journey and it comes with days of difficulties and seasons of challenges so it’s nice to hear words of encouragement to help you get though those tough days. Then there are times when you nervously take a step of faith and try something that you’ve never done before and it’s comforting to hear words of encouragement to boost your confidence and reassure you that you’ve done the right thing. But what happens when you don’t get the encouragement that you crave?
People have their own issues and struggles so please do not wait or expect them to encourage you!! Words of encouragement from people are great but I’ve found that regardless of if I’m encouraged by people or not I’ve learnt to encourage myself in the Lord!! I talk to myself and encourage me which then enables me to encourage others.
I encourage myself by speaking the truth that is in the word of God. I say: “Stacy, God is on your side,” “If God is for you Stacy, who can be against you?” I remind myself of what the word says: “I am blessed, I am anointed, I am not lack but I am increase, I am favour, I am the righteousness of Christ, I am favour.” So, if you see me walking down the street, yes, I am talking to myself and no I’m not crazy!! BUT “I am wise and I am intelligent.”
In 1 Samuel 30 David went through a traumatising experience when the Amalekites raided Ziklag and set it on fire and took the women and children captive including David’s two wives and their worldly possessions were also taken. Everything David had in the world had been taken, he literally had nothing left. He was seriously depressed. “So, David and his men wept aloud until they had no strength left to weep,” (1 Samuel 30:4). To make matters worse, David was distressed because the men were talking about stoning him because they were angry and bitter that their children had been taken. David cried until there were no more tears left and then he finally came to the end of himself and “David encouraged himself in the Lord his God,” (1 Samuel 30:6).
WORDS ARE POWERFUL!! David encouraged himself even though his situation was hopeless and all the men around him were depressed and discouraged by the situation they found themselves in. David knew he was powerless and only God could help him find his wives and children, so he humbled himself and prayed. “David inquired of the Lord, “Shall I pursue this raiding party? Will I overtake them?” “Pursue them,” he answered. “You will certainly overtake them and succeed in the rescue.” (1 Samuel 30:8). Only after David encouraged himself and went to God FIRST for direction was he then able to recover everything the Amalekites had taken including his two wives, children and all the possessions that were plundered.
David had to come to the end of himself and find strength in the Lord. His desperate prayer allowed God to intervene to give him direction and insight in how to deal with the situation. There is power in prayer, it changes things and allows God to step in. We need to let go and LET GOD do what only he can. “…if my people who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their land,” 2 Chronicles 7:14.
If you’re not getting encouragement from the people in your life that’s COOL encourage yourself in the Lord!!! Speak the word of God over your life, get yourself a slice of cake to celebrate you and encourage yourself, take yourself out for lunch, treat yourself to something nice and LOVE YOU. As we encourage ourselves in the Lord let’s also encourage each other.
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing,” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
At the same time, if you don’t have anything nice, edifying, helpful or encouraging to say it’s wise not to say anything at all. Be careful of the words you speak over yourself and others.
God is faithful!!