“A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like cancer in the bones,” Proverbs 14:30
I’m sure jealously is something we’ve all had to deal with at some point in our life. Either you’ve been jealous of a person because they had something you didn’t have or they were jealous of you!! As children of God, we already know that we’re not “supposed to be jealous” but it is still blatantly happening in families, churches, among friends and at work. Jealousy is a spirit and we need the grace of God and the truth of God’s word to help us to overcome this because its paralysing people and stopping them from moving forward. It is one of those awkward things that no one talks about but sadly it’s very present whether its talked about or not.
It is no joke!!! The scripture above says: “jealousy is like cancer in the bones” (Proverbs 14:20), it is like a disease that’s so destructive that it slowly rots the bones over time and ultimately causes death. The opposite to that is a peaceful heart that is content which “leads to a healthy body.” Sometimes we can be so consumed by what God is doing in another person’s life that we forget or do not value what God has done and is doing in our life which leads to frustration and jealousy. When I was a baby Christian in my early 20’s I was very shy and quiet and I couldn’t think of anything worse of than talking in front of a crowd. I was jealous of people who were good at public speaking and I wished I could be articulate and confident like them they made it look so easy. I’d look at them and roll my eyes but only because I wanted to be like them. So silly!!! For women their jealousy stems from deep rooted insecurities and fear sometimes planted in childhood and this needs to be uprooted with fervent prayer.
“For I know the plans that I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) God has a unique plan for each of our lives and it cannot be compared with anyone else’s. We are all on different paths and are in different seasons in our lives, so it makes no sense to compare your life with someone else’s. It’s a waste of time!!!!!!!!!!! Instead, keep your eyes on Jesus the author and finisher of our faith and trust his plans for YOUR life and do you BOO!!! Jealousy is a tool of the enemy to distract the child of God. Fight it with your faith (see the blog I wrote Faith is a Fight).
The reality is being jealous of someone else is not going to give you whatever it is that you are praying for any quicker. Being jealous of someone else’s open door will not make your doors open quicker. Jealousy is the evidence of spiritual immaturity and shows that you’re not ready to receive. Being genuinely happy for what God is doing in someone else’s life is a sign of spiritual maturity.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that we get to hear of other people’s testimonies of their blessings, achievements and successes. It’s a test to see what we will do when someone else has what we’ve been praying for sometimes for YEARS. It exposes the true condition of our heart!! Will we be genuinely happy for them or secretly jealous? Will you pass that test? God sees our heart (see the blog I wrote #Heart Check). We can fool people with our fake smiles and empty words but we can’t fool God who sees our true motives.
“What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.” (James 4: 1-2)
Instead of being jealous of someone’s life and their house, car, husband, wife, children, job, position or their talent ASK God for what you want and then TRUST GOD to give it to you at the right time and in the right way. Trust God that if what you’re asking for is not the will of God than he will not give it to you!! It comes back to knowing and trusting God’s plans for YOUR life.
In the church world, we can look at another person’s life and be jealous of the calling of God on their life!! We can be jealous of the gift God has given them to talk, sing, to play an instrument, to pray, to preach or whatever and wish we had that gift. What a waste of time!!! Their gift has been given to them as a gift for your edification and enjoyment so it doesn’t make sense to be jealous of a gift that is supposed to be a blessing to YOU. Instead, support, encourage and pray for them!!
We are all part of the Body of Christ and just like the body we have different parts that should be used to edify the body (Romans 12:3-8). I may be the neck but I need the head and the eyes. We need each other!!
If you’re struggling with jealousy, ask the Holy Sprit to help you to be free from the spirit of jealousy. It steals life and causes bitterness, comparison and ultimately causes division. Thank God for YOUR portion and be thankful for what he is doing in YOUR life and get ready for where he is taking you. As members of the Body of Christ lets support, encourage and love one another. Ultimately, God gets all the glory!!!
Keep your eyes off people and focus on God who is able to do exceeding, abundantly beyond above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us (Ephesians 3:20) Trust him!!!
I don’t know about you but I’m EXPECTING God to do amazing things this year!!